Coping with Corona
We are living in challenging and uncertain times, but the good news is we are all in this together, and together we will prevail. Many individuals are experiencing increased levels of anxiety for good reason. We need to distinguish between legitimate fear and unnecessary panic and work to keep our legitimate fears under control and manageable.
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There is no question that the top reason for an individual seeking therapy today is “relationship counseling.” There are more callers of every age who are looking for a therapist to help them “get along better” with their partners, parents, children, boyfriends, roommates, girlfriends, stepchildren, siblings, in-laws, ex-husbands, ex-wives, co-workers etc., than anything else.
Family Case Studies
Mother - Daughter:
Mother chooses 2nd husband over grandchildren
2nd husband dies
Grandmother wants time with grandchildren
Daughter is reluctant, feels betrayed
Family - Son:
Son recovers from drug addiction
Family of attorneys want him to pursue law degree
Son prefers interior design
Son wants support from family
Couples Case Studies
32 y/o woman with 2 children and 7 years of marriage
Now unhappy as stay-at-home mom
Husband has gained 60 lbs since marriage
No longer enjoying sex with husband
31 y/o physician with former eating disorder
Boyfriend broke up with her claiming she is "too difficult"
She is convinced no one can take his place
She begins questioning her viability
What matters is that each party in therapy feels safe, validated, heard and respected, and that the outcome reflects the wishes of both sides as much as is humanly possible. There are no perfect solutions, and unfortunately, it may seem that when one party wins, the other loses.
Not everyone gets what she or he ultimately wants and when the decision to separate occurs during the course of or as a result of couples therapy, it is painful for all of us, including me. Acceptance of a new reality and a new future then becomes part of the ongoing work, which I will continue to do if one partner wishes to remain in therapy.
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